I’m fat. Ok there, I said it. I am a typical 47 year old, middle aged woman with course, stringy hair and a thick waist. I can’t see a blasted thing without my reading glasses which are permanently perched atop of a mess of hair that is too wavy to be straight, and too straight to be curly. I look in the mirror and often wonder what the heck my mom is doing in my bathroom mirror staring back at me. Gone are the days when I could eat 2 Big Macs, a large fries, large coke and top it off with a hot apple pie and still look like twiggy. You know, the model from the 60’s who got her name, I am sure, because of her slim resemblance to a twig! Yes at one time I had a skinny little figure and hardly a care in the world.
Oh how things change. Suddenly we care about what other people think of us, as if they are sitting at home wondering, “Hey, I wonder what Lynn’s waist line is up to today!” or “at least my hair looks better than Lynn’s Gene Simmons helmet head!” Yes, we tend to compare ourselves to others whether we admit it or not. Why do we do such insane things? You would think that after, I don’t know – high school, the competition would stop, that we would grow and mature into adults with adult thoughts. Yet we know that that is not the case. Just look at the cover of ANY magazine at the grocery store. You know the place where you go to buy the food that we stuff into our mouths and then wonder why we can’t look like Kim Kardashian. Why have we not yet figured out that Kim Kardashian does not look like Kim Kardashian? Who is she anyway? With a little starvation diet, a 2 hour daily gym workout, liposuction, tons of makeup and photo shop editing I could look like I did in high school. But why? Would I be happier? It sure hasn’t worked out for Kim! Just wait until she is 50! And who really cares what I look like anyway?
God does not care if we are 130 lbs or 300 lbs. He looks at our heart. We need to learn to look at ourselves through His eyes and stop worrying about what others think. Let’s thank God we live a world of plenty. During the renaissance a heavy woman with pale skin was revered as beautiful. She lived a life of luxury because she had plenty to eat while others starved and her skin was shielded from the sun because she did not have to work the fields. God is blessing us every day.
Let us stop obsessing about our weight, embrace the fact that one day we will look like our mothers and turn our focus on loving others regardless of how well they conform to societies standard. True beauty if found within. We read in 1 Peter 3:3-4 – 3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” Now that does not mean you cannot buy attractive clothes or go to the hair stylist. But it does not give us license to eat like pigs and dress like slobs either. What it does mean is that no amount to outward appearance can make up for a gentle, quiet spirit. Let us embrace our femininity.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 says, “And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. 10 For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.” Again, this is not to say we cannot dress attractively. But we certainly don’t need to adorn ourselves as “harlots.” Too many of our youth believe that the only way to be accepted is by dressing provocatively or in certain fashion labels, when what is truly attractive in an inward beauty.
The scriptures say “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16) It does NOT say, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever is a size 6 and believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”
So in the words of Joyce Meyer, buy the shoes, eat the cookie. Let us stop comparing ourselves and others as society does. Let us look upon one another as disciples of Christ, with love and encouragement, for then we are truly beautiful.
Director of Women’s Ministry